Weiden in der Oberpfalz
20.12.2023 - 16:53 Uhr
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Was sich Trauernde zu Weihnachten wünschen? Die richtigen Worte

"Die Zeit heilt alle Wunden" oder "Wird schon wieder" – schnell dahingesagt und für Trauernde nicht wirklich hilfreich. Hinterbliebene wünschen sich mehr Feingefühl im Umgang, sagen die Teilnehmer einer Trauergruppe in Neustadt/WN.

Trauer braucht Zeit und die richtige Ansprache. Ehrenamtliche Trauerbegleiter beim Ambulanten Hospizdienst Weiden-Neustadt des Malteser Hilfsdienstes wissen um die Fettnäpfchen im Umgang mit Trauernden. Gerade zur Weihnachtszeit bricht mancher Schmerz wieder auf. Bild: Michael Reichel
Trauer braucht Zeit und die richtige Ansprache. Ehrenamtliche Trauerbegleiter beim Ambulanten Hospizdienst Weiden-Neustadt des Malteser Hilfsdienstes wissen um die Fettnäpfchen im Umgang mit Trauernden. Gerade zur Weihnachtszeit bricht mancher Schmerz wieder auf.

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