Wenn Frauen ihre Mutterrolle bedauern: Das Phänomen "Regretting motherhood"

Wenn Frauen sich nicht mit ihrer Rolle als Mutter identifizieren können, heißt das "Regretting motherhood". Warum Frauen so empfinden und wieso sie sich nicht dafür schämen müssen, erklärt eine Heilpraktikerin für Psychotherapie aus Weiden.

von Lisa Sebald

Das Phänomen "Regretting motherhood" beschreibt den Zustand, wenn Frauen sich nicht mit ihrer Rolle als Mutter identifizieren können.

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