Gewalttäter erzählt von seiner Therapie: "Ich will nie wieder so sein"

"Täterberatung" klingt seltsam und im ersten Moment vielleicht auch etwas missverständlich. Doch die Arbeit dieser Anlaufstelle für Männer, die ihrer Partnerin gegenüber gewalttätig wurden, ist sehr wichtig. Das zeigt Jürgen Ps. Beispiel.

von Wolfgang Würth

Wut und Ärger: Männer die gewalttätig gegen ihre Frauen werden, können sich Hilfe suchen.

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