Goldene Regeln der Kommunikation

Miteinander reden ist nicht immer leicht. Dabei ist Kommunikation die wichtigste Brücke zu anderen Menschen. Doch oft geschieht es, dass wir nicht richtig vermitteln können, was uns am Herzen liegt.

von Christa Vogl

Bernhard Suttner ist Vater von drei erwachsenen Kindern und beruflich jahrzehntelang als Pädagoge in der Bildungsarbeit fest verankert. Er gibt Tipps für eine bessere Kommunikation.

Bild: privat

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Der aufgeklappte Fächer ist ein Symbol dafür, dass es unendlich viele Möglichkeiten gibt, sich auszutauschen. Bild: Bernhard Suttner

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