Zeit heilt nicht alle Wunden

Wenn ein geliebter Mensch stirbt, gibt es kein Zurück mehr. Die Trauer kommt mit Übermacht. Jeder geht seinen eigenen Weg der Trauer und hat seine eigene Geschichte. Trauerseminare können dabei helfen, dass Wunden heilen.

von Christa Vogl

Viele alte Rituale funktionieren nicht mehr. Trauernde müssen deshalb neue Formen finden, ihren Schmerz auszudrücken. Trauerseminare können dabei helfen.

Bild: Kai Remmers/dpa

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Dr. Wolfgang Holzschuh leitet Trauerseminare im Exerzitienhaus Werdenfels und gibt sein Wissen auch in Seminaren weiter. Bild: georgschraml.de/exb

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Die vier Dimensionen von Trauer. Die Farben stehen dabei für Körper, Gefühle, Denken und Verhalten. Auch Phasen und Aufgaben in der Trauer werden während des Seminars aufgezeigt. Bild: Wolfgang Holzschuh/exb

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