Die Kunst des Zuhörens

Wir leben in einer Gesellschaft, in der jeder offen sagen darf, was er sagen will. Was nutzt uns das jedoch, wenn niemand mehr richtig zuhört? Statt uns immer wieder ablenken zu lassen, sollten wir uns wieder echten Gesprächen widmen.

von Evi Wagner

Zuhören ist eine Kunst, die leider viele von uns nicht mehr beherrschen.

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