Amberg
20.05.2022 - 11:17 Uhr
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Angehörige von Suchtkranken müssen sich selbst helfen

"Ich hab' zu lang geschwiegen." Heute weiß Alexandra, dass ihr das nicht gut getan hat. Ihr Mann ist Alkoholiker. Sie weiß jetzt: Das ist sein Problem. Aber es war lang auch ihres.

Wenn der Partner trinkt, hilft es ihm nicht, wenn man seine leeren Flaschen wegräumt. Oder die vollen vor ihm versteckt: Das hat Alexandra als Frau eines Alkoholikers in der Suchtambulanz der Caritas gelernt. Dort haben wir mit ihr gesprochen.

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