Mit 61 der dritte Versuch, vom Alkohol loszukommen

Zweimal hat Paul alles verloren – den Führerschein, seine Ehe. Er ist Alkoholiker. Mit 15 trank er sein erstes Bier. Mit 61 versucht er zum dritten Mal, trocken zu bleiben. Sein Appell an alle, denen es geht wie ihm: Lasst euch helfen.

von Heike Unger

Paul will von seiner Alkohol-Abhängigkeit erzählen – um anderen Betroffenen zu helfen. Er möchte dabei aber anonym bleiben. Deshalb haben wir seinen Namen geändert und verwenden ein Symbolbild. Die Redaktion hat mit Paul in der Fachambulanz für Suchtprobleme der Caritas in Amberg gesprochen.

Symbolbild: Jens Büttner/dpa

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