Wege aus dem Tief: Von der Kunst, die Dellen im Leben auszubeulen

Das Wort Resilienz kommt aus der Physik und beschreibt die Widerstandsfähigkeit eines Materials. Seit einiger Zeit wird es auch in der Psychologie verwendet als Gradmesser, wie Menschen mit Lebenskrisen umgehen und wie sie daraus hervorgehen. Diplom-Psychologin Evelyn Gäbler weiß, wie man Resilienz trainieren kann.

von Christa Vogl

„Hass schadet nur Einem, nämlich dem Hassenden selbst“, sagt die Diplom-Psychologin Eva Gäbler. „Prinzipiell davon auszugehen, dass der andere vorsätzlich böse ist, kostet schnell viel Energie.“

Symbolbild: Christin Klose/dpa

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Accijil16.08.2021

Evelyn Gäbler: "Resilienz bezeichnet die Fähigkeit der inneren Stärke. Die Kraft für Neubeginn. Die Kunst, nach schwierigen Ereignissen, wieder aufzustehen." Bild: privat

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