Wege aus dem Tief: Zur Lebensfreude muss man sich entschließen

Gelegentlich gerät das Leben aus der Bahn. Vieles lässt sich nicht beeinflussen, aber man kann die Sicht auf die Dinge ändern. Evelyn Gäbler ist Diplom-Psychologin und rät, sich von der Vorstellung zu lösen, dass das Leben perfekt sein muss.

von Christa Vogl

Lebensfreude ist eine Lebenseinstellung, sagt die Diplom-Psychologin Evelyn Gabler. „Einen Teil davon machen auch die Dinge aus, die einem gut tun und die individuell sehr verschieden sind.“ Egal, ob das nun Joggen, Shoppen oder auch Meditieren sei.

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