Wege aus dem Tief: Loslassen lernen, auch wenn es Angst macht

Dinge loszulassen bedeutet Veränderung und Veränderung bedeutet Risiko. Loslassen kann aber der Beginn von etwas Neuem, Besseren sein. Diplom-Psychologin Evelyn Gäbler aus Kemnath erklärt, warum es wichtig ist, im Leben immer wieder Abschied zu nehmen.

von Christa Vogl

Die Trennung von Lebensgefährten oder -gefährtin beispielsweise kann nicht mehr als persönliches Scheitern empfunden werden, sondern als mutige Entscheidung.

Bild: Monique Wüstenhagen/dpa

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